🕊️SWALLOWS THAT FLY IN WINTER

I want to title this article “The Swallows That Fly in Winter or Autumn.”

How many times do we hear motivational phrases about personal growth — “you can do it if you really want to”?

I’m thinking of — if I may quote her, though there are many others — Arianna Cavina, an influencer who gave a TEDx talk titled “HOW TO FIND YOUR PATH AND BECOME WHO YOU WANT TO BE.”She says many interesting things — some I totally agree with, others make me think… but also question. 🤔

She, for example, tells her story: she was about 20 when she started her career.At first, she worked as a shop assistant, then got tired and said: “A steady job isn’t for me.”And that’s debatable.Because — well — a girl who quits her job as a sales assistant to change her life might sound like an “inspirational” story.But the truth is, not everyone has the same chances.

She started her business on Instagram, focused on fashion and visual content, asked her grandmother for help, borrowed a room, found her way.The point is, she says: “Anyone can achieve what I did.”And she teaches others how to do it.

💸 Another example: in a TEDx talk on finance (“HOW TO MAKE YOUR MONEY WORK FOR YOU”), they spoke about an American man who, with modest savings, managed to leave behind $8 million when he died.

Beautiful story, sure. But here’s the problem:

People always pick the swallows that flew in winter.

Yet only 5% fly in winter or autumn...The other 95% fly in spring or summer. 🌸

That needs to be said clearly — otherwise, people feel “wrong” for not succeeding the same way.

⚖️ It’s true — those who made it deserve respect. They had motivation, effort, discipline.

But let’s remember: in life, the key resources are time, money, and knowledge.It’s easy to say “follow your dream”, but what if someone has a mortgage, works 8 hours a day, has children or health issues?

From 7 a.m. to 6 p.m., the day is already gone! 😓

It’s like a race:

• One runs light and free.

• The other carries a 10-kilo backpack.

🎒Who will win? Obviously the first.So let’s stop saying “I made it, you can too” as if everyone starts from the same place. We don’t.

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💼 Many of those who “made it” didn’t have mortgages, children, or financial problems.They had time and freedom.But those who work eight hours a day, have responsibilities, come home tired… don’t have the same chances.

And that’s not laziness — it’s reality.

Real life is something else.

🎾 It’s like two people playing tennis:one has a light, perfect racket,the other a heavy, broken one.Who will win? Obviously.Everyone has their own starting point, and that matters.We’re not all equal, nor do we all have the same opportunities or luck. 🍀

💭 So yes — respect to those who succeeded, but also awareness.

Before saying “It’s your fault if you fail,” let’s ask:

• What’s their starting point?

• What resources do they have?

• What obstacles do they face?

It’s easy to talk when you don’t have loans, kids, or problems.Those who do must survive the best they can.

⚙️ The concept of effort

Another key topic: effort.

We always hear: “Effort teaches you, helps you grow, makes you appreciate things.”True… but only to a certain extent.Yes, hardship can awaken hidden talents.But if everything in life becomes extreme struggle, something’s wrong. 😣

Take university, for instance: if every exam feels like torture, if you study endlessly and only get the minimum grade, how can you stay motivated? Of course, you start to hate the subject, the path, yourself.Effort should stimulate, not destroy. A “healthy challenge” pushes you forward —but too much struggle drains you, burns you out, and kills your drive to live. 💔

💬 In conclusion: Too much is too much.

We need challenging, not crushing, difficulties.

Effort that inspires, not exhausts.

Sustainable growth, even in how we live our lives. 🌱